What is it like being in a
marriage relationship, or equivalent, where you are taken for granted? You do
all the activities that are part of any marriage relationship. There is no
acknowledgment that you take all these responsibilities, it is simply expected
you will do them because you always have. It is not thought there is anything
unusual about your situation as is it mirrored in marriage relationships
throughout the world.
It is often claimed that
circumstances with married couples is different today, it is not like it used
to be. However, any surveys that have been taken reflect very little change as
they show things are much the same as they have always been.
These surveys demonstrate married
women overwhelmingly carry the burden of household and parental duties
regardless of the fact that with many married couples both parties are in the
Any involvement in these
activities by a lot of men in relationships is regarded as being magnanimous,
chivalrous or generous. It is generally viewed as helping, and when involved
with children, especially when they are very young, it is often seen as baby
sitting, and this is with their own children.
As a couples counselor I have seen
many married couples where the men fit into this category of helping, and the
women have said other women have expressed how envious they are.
The women have stated they wonder
why they don’t feel so good. My suggestion has been to say that perhaps they
are made to feel they are indebted to the men in their relationship and this is
burdensome. They are now made to feel they owe them for their generosity, and
this would probably mean there is now no excuse for men not having sex.
A point to be made is … Read more
Who should pay the bill on a date?
This can be quite an issue for
women who have been brought up with the concept that the guy always pays.
A very liberated woman would say:
“An old-fashioned curtsey and out of date (excuse the pun) and I intend to
pay my own way”.
But what about from the guy’s
point of view. Perhaps in his mind he is having the pleasure of your company
and the enjoyment he gets out of the date is sufficient for him to want to
settle the bill. Plus the fact that this habit has been ingrained in him from
There is sometimes the idea in a
woman’s mind that if he pays she is obliged to him in some way. Two can play
that game. He might have that in mind and she might feel obliged.
Well if this is you, you can offer
to pay next time or to be more subtle, make the return less obvious like taking
him on a picnic whereby you are supplying the edibles – (food that is).
It does depend on the situation
and also on the man. If he is the generous sort and he is doing the inviting
then obviously he will want to pay the bill.
Another situation maybe that he is
not moneyed and if you have found this out before the date then there is no
harm in going dutch. I suggest you treat it in a lighthearted manner.
Its also a way of discovering if
he is a mean with his money and doesn’t like spending it on women for a first
date even if he is quite well off. It could indicate he is mean in other ways
and part of his character that rubs you the wrong way.… Read more
When you want to pick up women at
work you have to be especially carefully. If you do something wrong you might
end being charged for harassment. And even if you do everything right there can
be misunderstandings and a lot of uncomfortable feelings when the relationship
While it might seem simpler to
pick up a woman at work for some reasons (you have valid reasons to talk to
her, you know her, you can find reasonable pretences to talk to her, etc.) it
is in a way more complicated that picking girls in the pub or in the club
because of the same reasons.
Before you go for it you should in
depth weigh all pros and cons of the situation and make your decisions
accordingly. First of all, decide if she is worth it. If you have doubts better
move on and leave her alone. If you believe you want to do this, go ahead but
you might want to follow a few rules about how to pick up women at work.
1. Welcome him every time you see
him. A simple hello or hello is the first step to getting a woman. Short
greetings turn into short conversations. Be charming and inconspicuous.
2. Smile at him. Just smile
quickly, without staring. Keep simple. Your smile must make it feel comfortable
and not be threatened. At the same time, he must never come to the conclusion
that you might have some hidden agenda. Be your usual self, friendly and
3. If you are lucky and this is
the woman you are working with on a project or in the same office and not a
different department, look for opportunities to use. He did a good job,
praising him. Tell and show him how good a colleague … Read more
We all know that most men love luxury Swiss
watches but that is also the case for many women. A Swiss watch is an elegant
jewel, a timeless accessory and a practical timepiece at the same time. But it
is available in several designs, colors and sizes. Although it is possible to
wear this kind of watch at any occasion and in any situation, there are some
basic rules to follow about how to choose the best model. It is also important
to know what types of Swiss watch you can wear on given occasions, how to match
them to your outfit and how to wear it properly.
Big Swiss Watches are pretty
out of Time
Although Swiss watches are known to be
timeless, which is the truth, their manufacturers always try to design more
modern styles. For women, it is highly recommended to avoid big watches. You
should know that the dials are measured in millimeters. Always opt for a model
of 34 to 40 mm and never wider. That is the right size to beautify your wrist
and your outfit as a whole. In any case, it must fit your wrist perfectly,
whether you choose to put it on the left or the right. Just choose the side
with which you are most comfortable and where your watch will not interfere
with your movements. In general, this is the non-dominant hand because it can
be cumbersome to write with a wristwatch.
The Adjustment of your
The strap must be firmly fastened around
the wrist. The watch
should be and look comfortable, natural and certainly not neglected. It may be
necessary to adjust it to accommodate the natural movements of your wrist. Some
luxury watches have a pin buckle that allows you to tighten them or loosen
… Read more
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● Hair growth
If you are someone who is struggling with hair growth, extensions
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extensions. This helps in the natural growth of hairs.
Sweating is natural and inevitable. If you are … Read more